date_rangeMay 01, 2020
The notion of emotional intelligence broadens the concept of intelligence beyond the intellectual domain and considers that intelligence includes emotions. Emotional intelligence is a set of skills that underlie accurate appraisal, expression, and regulation of emotions
WHAT IS EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE?
The notion of emotional intelligence broadens the concept of intelligence beyond the intellectual domain and considers that intelligence includes emotions. Emotional intelligence is a set of skills that underlie accurate appraisal, expression, and regulation of emotions. It is the feeling side of intelligence. A good IQ and academic record are not enough to be successful in life. You may find many people who are academically talented but are unsuccessful in their own lives. They experience problems in the family, workplace and interpersonal relationships. Have you ever wondered what do they lack?
Some psychologists believe that the source of this difficulty is the lack of emotional intelligence. This concept when introduced was defined as "the ability to monitor one's own and other's emotions, to differentiate among them, and to use the information to guide one's thinking and actions."
Emotional Quotient (EQ) is used to express emotional intelligence in the same way as Intelligence Quotient (IQ) is used to express intelligence. Over the years, it has been repeatedly proved that Emotional Quotient is much more strongly correlated to success than Intelligence Quotient.
BENEFITS OF EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE
· HIGH EQ AND HIGH IQ ARE CORRELATED:
It has been experimentally observed that kids who have higher levels of emotional intelligence, tend to perform better on their academic assessments.
· EQ INSURES BETTER RELATIONSHIPS (BUILDS INTERPERSONAL SKILLS):
Children with high EQ can resolve conflicts amongst each other and hence can develop deeper friendships. The same goes for adults who develop better interpersonal skills which are important to carry out their both, professional and personal lives.
· CHILDHOOD EQ IS DIRECTLY LINKED TO ADULTHOOD ENDEAVOURS :
The American Journal of Public Health 19 years ago published a study stating that a kid's social and emotional skills in kindergarten reflect in their future endeavors. At age 5, if the kids were able to share and cooperate with others while following orders, they were more likely to be employed full time, by 25.
· EQ INSURES BETTER MENTAL HEALTH:
It is a proven fact that people with high emotional intelligence are less likely to experience mental disorders such as depression etc.
HOW TO INCULCATE EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE IN YOUR CHILD?
It is not a difficult task if it seems so; all you have to do is follow some basic steps.
STEP 1: UNDERSTAND YOUR CHILDS’ EMOTIONS AND LABEL THEM
We often neglect our kids' advancements in terms of emotions. Emotions are what they will go through every day and each day they will experience a different set of emotions. Identify what and how they feel. Make tour kids understand the differences between positive and negative emotions such as happiness, joy, and anger, sadness respectively. Label their emotional states as when they are happy as "happy" and when they are sad as "sad". This will help them differentiate emotions.
STEP 2: EMPATHIZE WITH YOUR KIDS
Empathy means to put yourself in the other persons' shoes and understand from their perspective. We don't exercise this often and only see the situations from our perspective and then make decisions based on them. This can lead to distancing between relationships. Kids, many times commit mistakes and then hide them and when we get to know of about it, it's our natural tendency to get angry. But instead of just scolding, we should empathize with kids and understand their psychology behind that particular incident.
STEP 3: EXERCISE EXCHANGE OF FEELINGS WITH YOUR KIDS
For a conversation to be effective, both parties must be able to exchange their share of feelings, thoughts, ideas, etc. We should implement this in our homes as well because we need to understand the thoughts and feelings of our kids and vice-versa.
STEP 4: TEACH YOUR KIDS PROBLEM-SOLVING SKILLS
Problems will always make their way in our lives so matter what we do. So the best way to deal with them is to face them and build the necessary solutions. This skill is very much essential in real-life and our kids should develop this skill from childhood itself.
STEP 5: HELP YOUR KIDS DEVELOP HEALTHY COPING SKILLS
Sometimes in life, we experience some situations that are brutal and difficult to survive. In such cases, we must not lose our calm and maintain our composure so that we can deal with the troubles with a stable mindset. A coping mechanism is a natural tendency that our body practices in a state of panic. Maintaining mental composure is the most important and hence we should help our kids develop it.
STEP 6: MODEL EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE THROUGHOUT YOUR LIVES
Even if you feel that you have reached the stage where you have developed emotional stability, there is always some space for progress. Never feel that you have achieved the stage of perfection because few things are required to be carried out throughout the journey of life no matter how much we excel in them.
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